Never be number one, second wives told

By Nurhidayah Rmli, The Star

“When they are courting couples, they pay so much attention and are naughty with each other; why not spice up the marriage by still being naughty?” she asked.

“When a wife does not fulfil the needs of her husband, including sex, the husband will be inclined to find a naughtier’ one outside,” she said.

KUALA LUMPUR: Single mothers who re-marry as the second, third or fourth wife should not try to take the first wife’s place, said Malaysian Council of Single Mothers Association (MPITM) president Nor Aini Juffrey.

“Do not try to be number one,” she said.

Nor Aini noted that the first wife might have family demands which the second or third wife might not have like children.

This being the case, she said the second or third wife should be willing to accommodate the husband’s need to pay more attention to the first wife and her children.

She felt that being considerate would help the wives respect and be in peace with each other.

Nor Aini also commented about the Obedient Wives Club vice-president’s statement where the wife had to be like a “first class prostitute” to keep the husband from straying.

“When they are courting couples, they pay so much attention and are naughty with each other; why not spice up the marriage by still being naughty?” she asked.

“When a wife does not fulfil the needs of her husband, including sex, the husband will be inclined to find a naughtier’ one outside,” she said.

She also said a good marriage should not be confined to bedroom activities alone.

“Couples should also look at outdoor activities like going for family picnics together.”