Shared memories at the core

ARCHIVES 2013

By admin-s On Apr 2, 2013

(The Straits Times) – Perhaps my family narrative, along with those of other foreigners, benefits the core of the true-blue Singapore family, too. It gives emotional depth to the core that makes up what it means to be Singaporean citizens by birth.

When I visited the Clementi Mall library recently, a schoolgirl sitting at a desk at the entrance beckoned me over. She told me she was collecting memories of Singapore, and did I have any to share?

At this open sesame, memories from over 20 years tumbled out. I saw the dark whip of a cobra on a jungle walk, I saw smiles at an East Coast picnic, I wiped a tear away as a neighbour sobbed over the death of a pet.

And then I wondered, why were they of interest to this schoolgirl? She explained that she was collecting memories for the Singapore Memory Project, a nationwide scheme to capture recollections related to Singapore. People, organisations, companies and groups could submit their memories to a website or mobile phone app (go to www.singaporememory.sg/ for details), and the National Library Board had set up “memory collection points”, as it called them, at its 24 libraries.

I paused. Perhaps this youthful collector of memories – what an important task, what a wonderful job title – was too enthusiastic in seeking mine. I explained that I was a foreigner on an Employment Pass, and that my memories might not be wanted for the Singapore-specific project.

But she said mine were welcome, and painstakingly wrote down my offering.

If only I could remember what it was that I remembered – but such is the fleeting nature of memory.

Still, at least this now-lost memory has been recorded somewhere, among the five million personal memories that the project aims to collect by 2015.

There are two timely backdrops to this memory-collecting. One is a New York Times piece that The Straits Times ran on March 23, which looked at what makes for happy families.

It found that one thing is a strong family narrative – the stories you tell your children about things such as where your parents came from and how they met.

It cited research by two Americans at Emory University who found that the more children knew about their family’s history, the stronger their sense of control over their lives, the higher their self-esteem and the more successfully they believed their families functioned. This was especially so in terms of being able to be resilient in the face of life’s challenges.

This is linked to the second reason why the Singapore Memory Project is a timely one – the talking point of retaining a Singaporean “core”, as if this were some impermeable centre of steel around which lighter weights spin.

This core doesn’t seem to be that solid, given the introspection and self-doubt about Singapore’s identity as a nation that has emerged in public debate. This is especially so in the light of the White Paper’s controversial population figure of 6.9 million in 2030, and the Our Singapore Conversation stimulating discussion of what it means to be Singaporean.

What might make that core more solid? I don’t mean just in terms of more “true-blue” Singaporeans, but in a national identity that is more concrete.

One way is through exercises such as the Singapore Memory Project, where everyone is regarded as having something to contribute to the narrative of the wider idea of a Singapore Family, whoever that might be.